After 15 LONG weeks, Mark is coming home! He will be home Friday morning bright and early! Lots has happened in those 15 weeks. Paige has lost a tooth, Ben has lost two. We celebrated Valentines Day, Easter and Mothers Day while he was gone. His ex wife filed for her THIRD divorce. His daughter has totally tanked her grades. Ben was accepted into a gifted program. Sam took his written drivers test. I kept the house running, the bills paid and my business afloat. I dried tears of children who missed their daddy so badly that they were wracked with sobs. I laughed with girlfriends until I pee'd my pants. We saw some good movies. I had some GREAT food with WONDERFUL women. The kids attended a total of five bday parties. I lost 15 pounds and started a work out plan that gets my butt to the gym three days a week. I gave up sugar. Paige went on two field trips. Sam went on one. Ben went on none. Mom and Dad celebrated their bdays. I bought tickets for our summer trip back home to Wisconsin. I drove a thousand miles(I swear!) shuffling kids back and forth to activities.
But none of that compares to what Mark was doing. For 15 weeks, he was busy keeping America safe and free.
Gotta love a man that does that!
Hugs to all,
Jaye
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Incompetence
I say if you are going to have a job, do it right and do it well! Take pride in what you do and know that it does impact people, even if it is in a small way! If you are required to do something, then follow through to the best of your ability and don't try to LIE about 'doing it'...
Some examples!
Movies..tv shows...and the people who get PAID to ensure continuity! My family really hates watching movies or tv with me because I am always stopping and rewinding and SHOWING them the mistakes...and now that we have TiVo I can do it with tv shows! ahahaha. So I was watching movies with the kids this weekend...and as usual, I found numerous mistakes. Mistakes that to me are GLARING! In one scene, the characters are driving in a car down the road, and the car has British Columbia (Canada) license plates. As the car pulls off the road and into the parking lot of a diner, the plates magically turn into California plates! HELLO! Did no one notice this??? Another movie we were watching was a made for tv movie. At one point in this movie, the main character opens a letter by tearing off the end and pulling out the letter. The next scene shows her showing her friend the letter by opening the FLAP and taking out the letter..neither end was torn! UGH...just a little pet peeve of mine!
Another example. Mary was court ordered to provide Mark with copies of ALL pictures she had of Shelby. (This was a few years back). Of course, she sends blurry, crappy copies but hey..they were pictures Mark had never seen before. So as we are sitting in our attorneys office looking through them, I said "She hasn't sent copies of ALL the pictures she has". Our Attorney said "How do YOU know?". I said (holding up a snapshot of Shelby sitting at the piano) "You see this picture of Shelby at the piano? Do you see that on top of the piano there are studio portraits of Shelby in frames? I don't see copies of THOSE pictures in here!". So that was put before the judge and Mary had her ass handed to her on a plate. But really..either give Mark copies of ALL the pictures you have of your daughter...or DON'T give him pictures that show OTHER pictures in them! Details people...details!
I am a real hoot to take to the theatre let me tell you! :)
Maybe I should be a detective...it's better than turning into a nit picking old lady...oh wait..maybe I already am! lol
Hugs to all,
Jaye
Some examples!
Movies..tv shows...and the people who get PAID to ensure continuity! My family really hates watching movies or tv with me because I am always stopping and rewinding and SHOWING them the mistakes...and now that we have TiVo I can do it with tv shows! ahahaha. So I was watching movies with the kids this weekend...and as usual, I found numerous mistakes. Mistakes that to me are GLARING! In one scene, the characters are driving in a car down the road, and the car has British Columbia (Canada) license plates. As the car pulls off the road and into the parking lot of a diner, the plates magically turn into California plates! HELLO! Did no one notice this??? Another movie we were watching was a made for tv movie. At one point in this movie, the main character opens a letter by tearing off the end and pulling out the letter. The next scene shows her showing her friend the letter by opening the FLAP and taking out the letter..neither end was torn! UGH...just a little pet peeve of mine!
Another example. Mary was court ordered to provide Mark with copies of ALL pictures she had of Shelby. (This was a few years back). Of course, she sends blurry, crappy copies but hey..they were pictures Mark had never seen before. So as we are sitting in our attorneys office looking through them, I said "She hasn't sent copies of ALL the pictures she has". Our Attorney said "How do YOU know?". I said (holding up a snapshot of Shelby sitting at the piano) "You see this picture of Shelby at the piano? Do you see that on top of the piano there are studio portraits of Shelby in frames? I don't see copies of THOSE pictures in here!". So that was put before the judge and Mary had her ass handed to her on a plate. But really..either give Mark copies of ALL the pictures you have of your daughter...or DON'T give him pictures that show OTHER pictures in them! Details people...details!
I am a real hoot to take to the theatre let me tell you! :)
Maybe I should be a detective...it's better than turning into a nit picking old lady...oh wait..maybe I already am! lol
Hugs to all,
Jaye
Saturday, May 09, 2009
Happy Mothers Day!
Being a parent is not always a choice. Sometimes Mother Nature just decides that it's 'your turn' and voila...you're a parent. This isn't a post about abortion or pro life or any of that. It's simply about becoming a parent..whether it was planned or not, so keep the 'but you had choices' emails to yourselves! :) So..you become a parent, for better or worse...prepared or not...irregardless of the example you had of how to be a parent.
And so you bring home this child and do your best. You breastfeed if you think thats the best for them. You debate to immunize or not. You limit sugar and additives and tv..you read to them at bedtime..you put their prospective play dates through a grilling that would make the FBI proud. You ask all the right questions, you do all the right things. At least you think you do. Sometimes we make choices for our kids that backfire. Like choosing a religion for them. I did that for my first two kids. Then I left that religion. And now my oldest child can't speak to me (so she thinks!) because I no longer wear that religious label. Her choice I like to tell myself. But her choice is a direct result of MY choice for her. Her brother chose to get out like I did and we have a great relationship...so I guess in a way it IS her choice to have shunned me..but then again...and so it goes..I go around and around on this issue in my mind. I breastfed her. I didn't immunize her (thus avoiding Autism! lol). I watched the sugar intake. I limited violent games and tv shows. She had the best I had to give. Only SHE thinks I am the worst...because we aren't the same religion.....see how easy it is to go around and around on this? Sigh....Happy Mothers Day to me.
Sometimes we have parents who can't or won't love us unconditionally. They will love us IF. I have a mother like that. She will love me IF. IF I belong to the same religion. IF I think the way she does. IF I tow the religious party line. I don't. SO. She hasn't met my two younger kids nor my bonus daughter. She hasn't met my brothers son (he too wont' tow the religious party line). She hasn't spoken to me but a handful of times in the past 15 years. Happy Mothers Day Sharon.
I married a man who had a child before he met me. She lives full time with her mother who is.......an adventure to say the least. This child..this woman child (she is 15 now!) is wonderful when she is here with us. She is loving and kind and sweet. When she goes back home to her mother, she knows that to show love to her father is tantamount to saying she is now a devil worshipper. So she ignores her father to save her relationship with her mother, who btw is going through her third divorce...so you KNOW the atmosphere in that home. Happy Mothers Day Mary.
I have given birth to two other children. I breast fed them. I didn't immunize them. I didn't limit sugar so much..but I do watch their tv intake. I loved them like all the others..and they adore me as does their older brother! Happy Mothers Day to ME! :)
My husbands parents are cut from a different mold than my own disfunctional parents. These two people love their kids undconditionally. No IFS. No ANDS. No BUTS. They just love them. They are proud of them. They say "I love you" at the end of every phone call. They draw you in and love you even if they didn't give birth to you. They tell it like it is but then they love the crap out of you. I learned how to be a parent from them. I learned how to love from them and their son..who is a direct result of their parenting. My husbands mother...MY Mom now too...is the kind of woman we should all strive to be. She is kind. She is funny. She eats cheescake and doesn't care about her arteries. She has a fashion sense that we could all take a page from. And she loves her family. And she loves God. And she loves her husband (now my DAD! YAY FOR ME!!!!)....so Happy Mothers Day Mom!! I love you!
Happy Mothers Day to ALL my friends who are mothers...and those who arent...because the act of giving birth isn't the ONLY way to be a Mom! One of my dearest friends is the BEST mom...and he is a....HE! :)
Hugs to all,
Jaye
And so you bring home this child and do your best. You breastfeed if you think thats the best for them. You debate to immunize or not. You limit sugar and additives and tv..you read to them at bedtime..you put their prospective play dates through a grilling that would make the FBI proud. You ask all the right questions, you do all the right things. At least you think you do. Sometimes we make choices for our kids that backfire. Like choosing a religion for them. I did that for my first two kids. Then I left that religion. And now my oldest child can't speak to me (so she thinks!) because I no longer wear that religious label. Her choice I like to tell myself. But her choice is a direct result of MY choice for her. Her brother chose to get out like I did and we have a great relationship...so I guess in a way it IS her choice to have shunned me..but then again...and so it goes..I go around and around on this issue in my mind. I breastfed her. I didn't immunize her (thus avoiding Autism! lol). I watched the sugar intake. I limited violent games and tv shows. She had the best I had to give. Only SHE thinks I am the worst...because we aren't the same religion.....see how easy it is to go around and around on this? Sigh....Happy Mothers Day to me.
Sometimes we have parents who can't or won't love us unconditionally. They will love us IF. I have a mother like that. She will love me IF. IF I belong to the same religion. IF I think the way she does. IF I tow the religious party line. I don't. SO. She hasn't met my two younger kids nor my bonus daughter. She hasn't met my brothers son (he too wont' tow the religious party line). She hasn't spoken to me but a handful of times in the past 15 years. Happy Mothers Day Sharon.
I married a man who had a child before he met me. She lives full time with her mother who is.......an adventure to say the least. This child..this woman child (she is 15 now!) is wonderful when she is here with us. She is loving and kind and sweet. When she goes back home to her mother, she knows that to show love to her father is tantamount to saying she is now a devil worshipper. So she ignores her father to save her relationship with her mother, who btw is going through her third divorce...so you KNOW the atmosphere in that home. Happy Mothers Day Mary.
I have given birth to two other children. I breast fed them. I didn't immunize them. I didn't limit sugar so much..but I do watch their tv intake. I loved them like all the others..and they adore me as does their older brother! Happy Mothers Day to ME! :)
My husbands parents are cut from a different mold than my own disfunctional parents. These two people love their kids undconditionally. No IFS. No ANDS. No BUTS. They just love them. They are proud of them. They say "I love you" at the end of every phone call. They draw you in and love you even if they didn't give birth to you. They tell it like it is but then they love the crap out of you. I learned how to be a parent from them. I learned how to love from them and their son..who is a direct result of their parenting. My husbands mother...MY Mom now too...is the kind of woman we should all strive to be. She is kind. She is funny. She eats cheescake and doesn't care about her arteries. She has a fashion sense that we could all take a page from. And she loves her family. And she loves God. And she loves her husband (now my DAD! YAY FOR ME!!!!)....so Happy Mothers Day Mom!! I love you!
Happy Mothers Day to ALL my friends who are mothers...and those who arent...because the act of giving birth isn't the ONLY way to be a Mom! One of my dearest friends is the BEST mom...and he is a....HE! :)
Hugs to all,
Jaye
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